tomorrow morning at 9.30am we go to the airport to pick up joey from his trip to France. i am looking forward to seeing him and hearing all the stories and seeing all the photos from his trip. i am excited about how much he will have learned about the world, and watching changes unfold in him as he processes it all and gets used to being back home again.
the three weeks has gone so quickly - for him and for us I am sure. I would so love to travel back there with him and share some of his memories and experiences.
Friday, April 27, 2007
Saturday, April 21, 2007
love and respect
so i was reading in another blog about the possibility that what men most want in a relationship is respect, and what women want is love.
and i am wondering if your experience of life and relationships suggests that to be true ... or otherwise.
i can see some truth in it for certain ... i know that other things, material things, are not the priority in relationships for me - just the windowdressing of the comfort zone, for me having the assurance of love is most important as the foundation for adventuring into the world.
respect is something i feel needs to be earned - it is not automatically conveyed. in my family, physical affection and words of love were not casual daily events. they were reserved for special occasions, birthdays, events, celebrations of achievement.
so i have grown up to distrust those who throw out words of love too easily. to me, that wasn't real or true unless the other person actually knew me enough to really choose to love me or not.
i did make sure, though, in bringing up my own children, that words of love flowed more easily and they were never in doubt of how we felt about them. And we have encouraged them to hug and be hugged, or to ask for a hug when they feel the need for comfort. All things that never happened for me and my brothers as children.
in more recent years, i have developed a different idea about love and sharing love with others .... as an infinite resource, that can be dipped into at will and never runs dry. i have real concern and love for my friends who i have only met online, as well as those i have also had the privilege of meeting in the flesh.
and of course for the friends i meet and talk with daily or weekly.
amongst my women friends i find it easy to share an unconditional form of affection, and find it puzzling when in some cases, their male partners find the same women threatening, undermining of their masculinity, and who knows what else.
is it simply their own insecurities they are projecting, or is there something more? are they seeking respect from their partner?
i don't really have the answers, but i feel like i am swimming in the soup of these questions at the moment, perhaps because i am heading towards my mid forties, and around me, mid-life crises are burgeoning like many headed hydrangeas!
with love
and i am wondering if your experience of life and relationships suggests that to be true ... or otherwise.
i can see some truth in it for certain ... i know that other things, material things, are not the priority in relationships for me - just the windowdressing of the comfort zone, for me having the assurance of love is most important as the foundation for adventuring into the world.
respect is something i feel needs to be earned - it is not automatically conveyed. in my family, physical affection and words of love were not casual daily events. they were reserved for special occasions, birthdays, events, celebrations of achievement.
so i have grown up to distrust those who throw out words of love too easily. to me, that wasn't real or true unless the other person actually knew me enough to really choose to love me or not.
i did make sure, though, in bringing up my own children, that words of love flowed more easily and they were never in doubt of how we felt about them. And we have encouraged them to hug and be hugged, or to ask for a hug when they feel the need for comfort. All things that never happened for me and my brothers as children.
in more recent years, i have developed a different idea about love and sharing love with others .... as an infinite resource, that can be dipped into at will and never runs dry. i have real concern and love for my friends who i have only met online, as well as those i have also had the privilege of meeting in the flesh.
and of course for the friends i meet and talk with daily or weekly.
amongst my women friends i find it easy to share an unconditional form of affection, and find it puzzling when in some cases, their male partners find the same women threatening, undermining of their masculinity, and who knows what else.
is it simply their own insecurities they are projecting, or is there something more? are they seeking respect from their partner?
i don't really have the answers, but i feel like i am swimming in the soup of these questions at the moment, perhaps because i am heading towards my mid forties, and around me, mid-life crises are burgeoning like many headed hydrangeas!
with love
Sunday, April 15, 2007
Moving on and wondering ...
what is in the air at the moment?!! seems that there are lots of people experiencing dramatic life changes around me ... most of them painful. I don't know what is behind it all, or if they are simply coincidental, but i sure hope it all stops soon!
over the weekend i took part in an ashes scattering ceremony ... the weather turned out much better than expected so we were able to do it on the water at one of my stepmother's favourite childhood locations. it was very emotional and quite hard for many of those present, but provided a degree of closure - and the ability to begin to move on with life.
I loved connecting with the men of my family again - my brother and my father, who i see too seldom. One day I will persuade them all back to live somewhere near me!
I also had an insight into appreciating something that we all too often (we meaning I) take for granted - having a reliable memory. Surrounded by older family members and hearing the same stories repeatedly, i truly understood just how valuable it is to have good recall of not only what is going on right now, or who we have just told a certain story to, but also of our more distant past.
I love that older people (in their 70s or more) have such a wonderful recall and so many stories of their own childhood experiences. Not for the first time i have a desire to record those memories before it is too late.
over the weekend i took part in an ashes scattering ceremony ... the weather turned out much better than expected so we were able to do it on the water at one of my stepmother's favourite childhood locations. it was very emotional and quite hard for many of those present, but provided a degree of closure - and the ability to begin to move on with life.
I loved connecting with the men of my family again - my brother and my father, who i see too seldom. One day I will persuade them all back to live somewhere near me!
I also had an insight into appreciating something that we all too often (we meaning I) take for granted - having a reliable memory. Surrounded by older family members and hearing the same stories repeatedly, i truly understood just how valuable it is to have good recall of not only what is going on right now, or who we have just told a certain story to, but also of our more distant past.
I love that older people (in their 70s or more) have such a wonderful recall and so many stories of their own childhood experiences. Not for the first time i have a desire to record those memories before it is too late.
Thursday, April 12, 2007
podcast, swicki and video!
so there they all are now!
if you want to hear my voice (sounding as my son said like a public service announcement - i used my " radio" voice) click on the top link where it says Karen's test podcast and have a listen!
might record a more fun one at some point and add it in for my friends to listen to :)
play with clicking on the phrases in the swicki "cloud" and see what comes up for your searches - they can be quite interesting.
that's all for now, I have some other missions to take care of today ... spot you later.
if you want to hear my voice (sounding as my son said like a public service announcement - i used my " radio" voice) click on the top link where it says Karen's test podcast and have a listen!
might record a more fun one at some point and add it in for my friends to listen to :)
play with clicking on the phrases in the swicki "cloud" and see what comes up for your searches - they can be quite interesting.
that's all for now, I have some other missions to take care of today ... spot you later.
Monday, April 9, 2007
Sunday, April 8, 2007
video widget
so i put in the video widget thingamybob as you can see ... but i am not sure how to put in the video clips from YouTube that I want you to see - there is no obvious way to edit and change what is there at present. however i shall continue to investigate .... and i posted this largely because you are no doubt wondering why i have racing clips on my blog!
xxx
xxx
Thursday, April 5, 2007
sunshine day
today is a gorgeous early autumn day, still and very warm. we are preparing to send my oldest son overseas to France for three weeks ... exciting stuff!
It is of course, Easter weekend, but we don't have any real plans, especially since he leaves on Sunday morning. But i do have a presentation to prepare for National Speakers meeting on Tuesday night that I am organising and mc-ing. It will take a bit of work - one of the things i am talking about is blogging, and how easy it is to set up a blog and get an online presence without the cost of setting up a website.
so you might see a few experiments here in the next few days ... i am going to have a go at recording a podcast and posting it here, plus will probably put up a YouTube link of some kind.
have a wonderful Easter ...
It is of course, Easter weekend, but we don't have any real plans, especially since he leaves on Sunday morning. But i do have a presentation to prepare for National Speakers meeting on Tuesday night that I am organising and mc-ing. It will take a bit of work - one of the things i am talking about is blogging, and how easy it is to set up a blog and get an online presence without the cost of setting up a website.
so you might see a few experiments here in the next few days ... i am going to have a go at recording a podcast and posting it here, plus will probably put up a YouTube link of some kind.
have a wonderful Easter ...
Sunday, April 1, 2007
Welcome to April!
In this part of the world, that means Autumn is underway and we are starting the countdown to winter ... while the rest of the world welcomes the first daffodils and blossom on the trees. Today the sun is shining, but my husband scattered grass seed the other day, which seems to immediately bring on the rains (happened last time he made a lawn) ... so we got three days of fairly gentle rain, while the North of the country suffered a deluge spun off from a cyclone passing by (oops, sorry guys!)
newsflash on the blogging front ... apparently the celebs are deserting their blogs in droves - Lindsay Lohan apparently hasn't been online with anything worth saying since promoting Freaky Friday! I am determined NOT to go the same way ... rest assured you will be updated as soon as my next movie comes out :)
right now, my computer is telling me i need to take a WorkPace Break ... i have breaks and exercise software on my PC since the creators of the software are a client - so very shortly it will prevent me from doing any more work until i do some stretches. Which is a good thing - but doesn't always pop up at the most convenient moments!
promise to write again very soon!
newsflash on the blogging front ... apparently the celebs are deserting their blogs in droves - Lindsay Lohan apparently hasn't been online with anything worth saying since promoting Freaky Friday! I am determined NOT to go the same way ... rest assured you will be updated as soon as my next movie comes out :)
right now, my computer is telling me i need to take a WorkPace Break ... i have breaks and exercise software on my PC since the creators of the software are a client - so very shortly it will prevent me from doing any more work until i do some stretches. Which is a good thing - but doesn't always pop up at the most convenient moments!
promise to write again very soon!
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